• Asafum@feddit.nl
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    3 months ago

    My cousin doesn’t understand what I mean when I tell him I’m really not a “catch” anymore than an old boot or used tire is a “catch.”

    He says I’m “attractive” which is nice to know as I never really thought I was, but there’s way more than just that which is what you “bring to a relationship.”

    Video games, gardening, and general science/space nerd isn’t exactly bringing much to a relationship lol add on my lack of education, dead end factory job, general distaste for concerts, the beach, and dogs and I might as well be Hitler lol

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      3 months ago

      Its about how you frame the information. Your framing sounds negative when there is actually quite a lot of positive traits there. Just leave out the dislike of dogs or you’ll get cooked.

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        3 months ago

        The only girl to ever reach out to me on a dating site (that wasn’t a bot) without me starting the conversation only did so to suggest I removed the bit about not wanting to own a dog lol

        I just noticed that like 99.999999999999999% of women’s profiles mention dogs, some even start with something about dogs, so I figured I’d just be upfront about it and let them filter me out if it’s that important to them. It really is a “dealbreaker” for me, so I’ve just kind of accepted that I’m going to stay single lol

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      3 months ago

      I was sympathetic until “dogs”. Ok with cats at least? Guinea pigs? Or just any non-human animal is a pass?

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        3 months ago

        I love cats, I have a little monkey of my own! (that’s what I call her lol)

        I just can’t stand the barking, begging, lack of personal space, and I’d rather not have the extra responsibilities that come with having a dog.