I’ve had a few different toys over the years. At times they can be great but they are a lot more work. You must clean them after use or they get extremely gross and foul. Lubrication is a must. There’s a lot of knock offs and gimmicks out there, but really you’re just paying for a good silicon mold to slide over your member, so make sure you get something sized right for you.

While they do feel great, personally I don’t recommend them largely due to the hassle of cleaning them. And if you live with someone you’re not sexually active, that’s a whole other awkward conversation. But if you do live alone or with a sexual partner, or have enough privacy you can keep one without someone else making a fuss about it, and you’re looking for another option for self care, then might be worth the investment.

For guys/tops: Pace yourself, learn some foreplay techniques that can keep your partner aroused when you need to break or slow down, and generally don’t allow yourself to go full bore until you think it’s a good time to cum. A lot of this is really just learning what your partner likes and enjoys, and experimenting to find different ways of doing things. Can they get off from their chest/nipples? Do they their butt being touched, groped, spanked or fingered? Is there a particular way you can grind against them, penetrate them or thrust that keeps you aroused but doesn’t stimulate you, but gets your partner closer to their next climax? If you feel like you’re going to blow too fast, suggest changing positions, use that break to clear your mind some and reset while your hands and mouth keep your partner stimulate and your dick gets a bit of a break.

Outside of sex with a partner, you can edge/tease yourself to improve your sexual stamina somewhat. If you’re jerking off, don’t get yourself to cum soon as possible, but build up a rhythm and take semi frequent breaks. Staying hydrated and exercising regularly also did wonders for my bedroom stamina.

I think there is a lot of overlap but I don’t think every guy who is into cuck porn or wants to be cucked IRL is bisexual.

For some, yeah it’s an outlet to explore their sexuality and potentially seeking to please multiple people at once, even indirectly.

For others, they know or just believe they can’t properly sate a partner so will step aside or make room for another who can.

And that’s not talking about the degrees of voyeuristic and/or humiliation kinks that cuck porn can appeal to. So while every man who wants to be cucked or identifies with a cuck in porn, isn’t necessarily bisexual or have any particular attraction to the bull. For a fair chunk of them, it’s more about the taboo than anything else.

If you’re not trying to start a polycule this is a terrible idea. If your BF is insistent on this, tell him to give his buddy a handy. Guaranteed its not a one time thing. If all three of you are warm to the idea, then go nuts.

Memes aside, beach sex is one of those great in theory, less fun in practice without a lot of forethought and preparation. If I got the choice, my partner and I are going indoors or at least somewhere with some shade and cushioning.