FishFace

At best you can call people who do this as having a very mild form of unconscious bias; you can’t infer bigotry which I would say really ought to be either a consciously-held opinion, or if not then a set of behaviours that has a practical negative outcome.

I think the kind of person you’re thinking of is a stereotypical bigoted jock who hangs out with his jock-friends and makes homophobic jokes all the time. That person we’re maybe not surprised that they are motivated to avoid doing stuff associated with those outside their gender.

But I don’t think (and there’s nothing here to suggest) that it is only that kind of person who is so affected. Do you think that someone respectful of gay people, but who grew up in a conservative family and whose father makes comments like that, might not be motivated along the same lines out of a desire to their father? Or is it bigoted to seek the approval of your dad if your dad is a bigot? Even if it’s not done consciously?

Inasmuch as these people have a “fragile ego”, you probably also have a fragile ego. Virtually everyone subconsciously adapts their behaviour to gain the approval of other people whom they value.

The difference between you and them is not that you have a strong ego and are confident in your masculinity, it’s that you don’t value the views of people who judge people on that basis. And that is certainly no bad thing, but it’s a fundamental difference, and making this error makes it very hard to understand people who are different from you.

I think you’re imagining this as a more conscious process than it actually is. The reason you need to go out and research this is because these men aren’t going around saying, “yeah, I was going to put my pepsi can in the metal recycling but I was worried my bro would call me gay so I just put it in the general waste.” Instead, sometimes men put pepsi cans in general waste, and sometimes men do things due to social perceptions, and sometimes those social perceptions are that certain things are “unmanly” and working out which things are related to each other is quite hard.

So there’s no paradox here. All people are subject to social pressures, and the vast majority of people make some effort to conform to those pressures in order to fit in and to receive approval from the people they value. Conforming to fit in isn’t “weak” or “insecure”, it’s the nature of being a social animal, and is done instinctively - if you think it’s done “obsessively” then you’re imposing the analytical mindset of someone studying the evidence on the subjects of the research, which is a fundamental error. It’d be like saying someone who subconsciously mirrors the mannerisms of someone they respect is “obsessed” with getting their approval, when they likely don’t realise they’re doing it.

Also, I feel like they’ve never considered that gay doesn’t necessarily mean effeminate. Or even that effeminate doesn’t necessarily mean weak/meek.

They almost certainly haven’t because, again, if you’re “considering” it, it’s not the right concept. The concept that people are trying to avoid is the one that’s labeled “gay” by their peers, which is really more of a gender thing than a sexuality thing; “what are you, gay?” isn’t a question about someone’s sexuality, it’s a suggestion that someone is not conforming to the gender role expected of them. You can’t successfully challenge that by saying “ackshually gay people can be v strong and they forget to put the pepsi can in the correct bin far more often than you might imagine.” They’ll just reply with, “OK bro sounds pretty gay,” because you didn’t challenge them on what they meant, only on what you thought they meant.

The challenge has to be more along the lines of creating a better awareness of societal expectations, tolerance of people who don’t conform to them, and building up positive associations between behaviours we want to promote and conforming things people already value, to help them see things in a new light.

You think people are only suggesting it in cases where it’s appropriate?

Understand that things aren’t perfect, and complaining is cathartic. You don’t need to fix everything that people complain about - if someone complains about their car, do you need a “solution”? I complain about my cat’s annoying behaviours all the time, but there’s no acceptable way to fix them.

It’s not a solution for most people.

Citation needed

If it’s just a JavaScript thing, not a link, it won’t work. This is a gripe I have with the Lemmy webapp - some links in the messages UI are not real links

I put wooden stuff in the dishwasher and it’s fine.

Do not do this to formal wear

The title is implicitly responding to someone who thinks, “fashion is an important part of masculinity, and it’s immutable,” but has nothing to say to someone who thinks, “fashion is an important part of masculinity and can change.”

I agree with flesh man

We mainly had non-summative assignments, so those had names on. Exams were all done by student-number, with a fold-down section where you wrote and signed your name.

I don’t believe it’s easier than rsync.

Was there a known issue there?

Are you really going to get defensively patronising over this? I think I’mma bounce, lol.

Yeah you might be right.

I should clarify I use GIMP. A lot! But this is one way it sucks. By this point I don’t know what other similar programs even have over it - it finally got adjustment layers after some decades. So if I can recognise this shortcoming anyone should be able to ;)

The other major thing was switching to single window mode. Floating windows for everything was absolutely batshit.

The first two sets of instructions are for drawing a disc, rather than a circle (a disc being a filled-in circle) and don’t extend to drawing a circle easily. The last method does, but it is about 10x as long. The traditional method for drawing a circle was to select the inner circle, save the selection to a channel, grow the selection by the pixel width of the stroke you want, subtract the saved selection, then fill. Wonderful /s

GIMP does not (unless I missed it in a ~recent update) have a shape tool like most image editors. The GIMP documentation in any case suggests using Inkscape for the purpose.