Thanks mate I re edited my comment to put it all back incase it’s helpful. And absolutely, gender can make a big difference to how a child is treated. It is kinda good that you don’t know what you’ve missed. I get what you mean about childhood still haunting you, it’s really hard to unlearn things we learned back then. Therapy can really help, it can change how we think… it’s about self development not things being wrong with us

Thanks shades, didn’t click about that. Really appreciate you pointing it out.

These are really valid questions! I’m a fiercely pro dad woman, and I’ll try to answer. IME people’s relationship with their dad tends to be different to their mom, they’re two different roles and two different people. IME people tend to go to dad for practical stuff (financial advice, DIY, moving things etc) and mom for home based practical and lengthy emotional discussions. Dad will also do emotional stuff, but often different style eg pep talks. For protection stuff, IME people go to dad.

Yes I love and miss my dad very much. A good person accepts mistakes, no matter what their role. And you can always go to a good parent cos they’re always safe.

I’m sorry you didnt get the dad all children deserve. Have you found !dadforaminute@lemmy.world People post when they need dad style advice or a hug.

Thanks otp, unfortunately I struggle to read text on lemmy coloured backgrounds. Writing is also just going to unavoidably foil me sometimes. Please bear in mind, the way written language developed is neurotypical, and so not how my brain is wired. If everyone’s brain was wired like me, written language would have developed differently. It isn’t as simple as learning linguistic rules… if it was, I’d have done that years ago.

Yep I’m neurodiverse I do that sometimes. Please don’t comment on my symptoms in future, it isn’t very nice for me. Thanks for understanding ♥️

Came here to say this!

Haha rest well my dude

Pedro Pascal plays a lot of single dads eg The Mandalorian, The Last of Us. He stands up for people (noticeably gung ho about trans rights) so he’s become the Internet daddy see here

Genius I love it

Sad but true

Yes it’s definitely oversimplified

Thanks Blaze!

Absolutely!

That’s a lot of financial stress over your life and the sad truth is that life costs money. You need money to cope. Big age gaps cause a lot of difficulties cos you’re in really different places, it’s rough

Parentification of kids can be really destructive there’s loads of research into it. It’s especially destructive when it’s against someone’s consent, eg it can cause hostility between family members. How’s it effected you long term?

Even if I brought my cats?

Yep I’d hire someone straight away

Ditto. I’d 100% rather be alone than with someone that wasn’t right for me and I’ve NEVER wanted to be a mum.

Have you found !reddit@lemmy.world that might be useful to you

Yep, that’s it. They massively value dollar over quality