You’re welcome to define it however you like, but it is by definition an abuse of trust, the relationship, and the other person. You can read through OPs comments on other posts to come to your conclusion on whether or not you think they’re abusive, but in a more general sense, that’s what it is.

The choice isn’t between being single or settling. It’s between keeping your options open for the right person or going back to your abuser.

They aren’t over-utilizing it though. They’re supplementing with portable generators. Even if you’ve never been to Memphis, you can still look up the info to realize your argument is hyperbolic.

You’e considering Memphis the middle of nowhere?

I don’t use it for coding. I use it sparingly really, but want to learn to use it more efficiently. Are there any areas in which you think it excels? Are there others that you’d recommend instead?