but it takes literally no effort to use it.

In written text form? Absolutely. It’s easy to adjust sentences/correct details before hitting submit.

Verbal conversations? I don’t think it’s fair to say it takes no effort… maybe it’s from ADHD, but simply using they/them reliably took an embarrassingly long amount of time. Neopronouns are a whole different challenge for my ADHD-autopilot’d mouth that’s already struggling with forming coherent sentences.

Of course I’m not saying we shouldn’t respect their preferences…I just wanted to add my perspective on the ‘no effort’ part.

It’s a combination of things… I’m a software developer, so I’ll often end up with 20+ tabs open while resolving a problem.

• I don’t want to bookmark them because I don’t need them when I finish the task.
• I can’t close the tabs until I’m sure everything’s working because Google sucks these days and who knows how hard it’ll be to find the source again.
• Relying on browser history is like finding a needle in a haystack. Tasks can take multiple days and 100 different entries in history.
• I might have “finished” a task that still needs tested and I know it’s a bit shaky; I’ll want to move onto a new task but keep the most useful references until I no longer need them.
• I only bookmark pages that I’ll need long-term or multiple times. It’s already hard enough to keep those organized…

My tab hoarding has only gotten this bad because search engines are terrible now and the amount of AI garbage to sort through makes finding anything useful a pain in the ass the first time; let alone trying to find it a second time.