Men tend to really struggle to make and maintain friendships. That’s not just you. Anyone who thinks you need to “get over it” can get fucked. Healing from an experience like that takes time.

It sounds like you’re already going to therapy. The other thing that helped me a lot was self-care. Be intentional about doing things that you enjoy. I spent lots of time fishing and playing golf. It was therapeutic in its own way.

I actually had a Zune. They were pretty nice as far as MP3 players go.

If the car was old enough you could plug a cassette adapter into an 8 track adapter.

True. But wrapping it in foil will not help with that.

I would gladly take the Texas Eagle to Chicago on a regular basis to see family if it didn’t cost $1,800 for a very small room in the sleeper car. I prefer the train to flying or driving. It’s just a LOT cheaper to load up the minivan and drive 12 hours instead.

From an American perspective, flying on an airplane sucks. 9/11/01 resulted in a whole bunch of security theatre at the airport and airlines have slowly whittled away whatever comfort or convience remained.

This reminds me of working at KMart whenever the “tin foil hat” people would come in and ask if we had devices to “stop the government from hacking my TV”.

I was trying to describe what my tinnitus sounds like, and I told my wife that it’s “like the sound a CRT TV makes but louder”. She had no idea what I was talking about. Turns out she can’t hear sounds in the 15khz range; which is at the top of the human audible range anyways.

I wish I could tell my younger self to turn the volume down on his headphones and wear ear protection around heavy equipment. Too late. Now I’ve gotta live with this high pitched whine for the rest of my life. Thankfully mine doesn’t bother me most of the time.

Not having good parents is hard. Hugs

I don’t normally sleep with a stuffed animal but when my two toddlers are spending the night at my inlaws, I’ll sometimes grab a couple of their stuffies to sleep with because I miss them and it makes me feel better.

That really sucks. The generic defect is brutal. I’ve known people who have had it. It can cause cancer that just keeps coming back over and over. Treatment is just stalling the inevitable.

I don’t think it’s Paris that people dislike.

Senator Tom Cotton

Ah. Yeah, that tracks.

America as a country needs to go fuck itself for a while so it can really learn the lesson of how productive that is.

Currently fucking ourselves. Unfortunately, I think it’s going to have to get a lot more painful before most of the people who need to learn from it actually do.

It seems like the singular benefit is that DuckDB (or similar OLAP models) can quickly handle lots of expensive read queries on large datasets.

It’s not a replacement for a traditional RDBMS. I’ve never used it so I don’t know if it’s worth the effort to maintain instead of just using a Postgres read-only instance to run analytics queries but somehow I doubt it.

My guess would be that it has a few very specific use cases where it can provide some added benefit. So, I fully expect it to be crammed forcefully into software projects where it provides no tangible benefit for the foreseeable future. Just like cough MongoDB cough.