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Short answer, yes, it can be learned and taught, but the person has to be willing to put in even a bare minimum of effort. If your friend isn’t willing to even consider the possibility of trying something new, they are stuck, unless something changes.

They are angry at how their life ended up, but can’t see how or why they got there, as it relates to their own actions. It’s all someone and something else’s fault.

This sounds like a form of blame-shifting, which is a super toxic trait. Here’s a list I found for you in a web search of some of the possible reasons someone does this:

Low Self-Esteem – Those with a fragile self-image may deflect blame to protect their sense of self-worth.
Fear of Failure – Admitting mistakes can feel overwhelming, leading some to shift responsibility elsewhere.
Lack of Accountability – Some individuals were never taught to take responsibility, often due to permissive parenting or a lack of consequences.
Narcissistic Tendencies – Those with narcissistic traits may believe they’re incapable of being at fault.
Learned Behavior – If blame shifting was modeled during childhood, it can become a default coping mechanism.
Avoidance of Shame – For some, experiencing shame feels unbearable, so they will do anything to avoid it.
Control Issues – Blame shifting can be a way to manipulate situations and maintain control.
Cognitive Dissonance – It can be easier to blame others than to confront inconsistencies between one’s actions and self-image.

All this is to say - there is no one-size-fits-all answer here.

One common option others have already recommended is mindfulness meditation. Practicing focusing your attention on something, then when your mind wanders, notice that and bring your attention back to what you were originally focusing on. Keep doing that for 10 minutes per day (ideally) or even once per week for weeks, months, years.

This and other mindfulness exercises can help someone learn to recognize to accept the world around them as it is, view themselves and others with non-judgment, and practice gratitude and forgiveness.

I’d be interested to hear if you offered to do this with your friend whether he’d be willing to try.

The Tohoku Earthquake was mind boggling. The scale of the earthquake and the tsunami really puts into perspective how insignificant we are in the face of our own planet. At its highest point, the tsunami was 133 feet high (40m). And there was so much footage recorded of the tsunami, the videos on YouTube are endless.

I’m an elder millennial and talk to friends and family on the phone all the time, as does pretty much everyone I know. I’m definitely not speaking for everyone, but I have no doubt the majority of people our age are fine having a phone conversation and are not represented by this meme

Open and authentic people have no problem making small talk and connecting with others, this has nothing at all to do with pop culture. Dude needs to reacclimate to freedom, a lack of structure, and engaging in relationships in an unfamiliar environment. Talking about fucking tiktok is more likely to make someone seem inauthentic and shallow

I mean no offense, but this is terrible advice. The man’s leaving prison after 11 years, learning the latest social media fads is nowhere near the top of the list of important things he’ll need help readjusting to.

You’re welcome to speak for yourself, but you don’t speak for millennials. Most of us don’t mind talking on the phone at all.

I recognize the reality of the world is grey, rather than black or white. Given the awful things both nations have engaged in, when someone launches into a virulent pro-Israel/anti-Iran diatribe, you can bet I have questions about their motivation

I’m curious what drives a person to write this much on this topic on lemmy

Can you give some examples? I think I keep up with world news and am genuinely at a loss for what you’re talking about

Are ya winning, son?

Is free trade an attempt at no control? You’ll find a lot of people who disagree with you, especially on the left. I’m just saying I think your argument is a serious oversimplification.

Why did China have tariffs on these nations to begin with?

Speaking as a…USian?..many of us know about these already and are ashamed of them.

The Houston Museum of Natural Science is a fantastic museum and I love visiting, but the entire top floor is basically propaganda for oil companies who made big donations. It’s under the guise of teaching about petroleum engineering, but it’s just so blatant and gross. If you go (which I highly recommend), skip the top floor

I think crack users don’t bother with hallucinogens because they’re looking for high impact dopamine hits, not a lengthy psychedelic experience. I don’t think vice versa is true, people who use psychedelics aren’t necessarily avoiding cocaine, but they’re probably using higher quality cocaine rather than crack

Musk has staked Tesla’s future on self-driving vehicles he has promised for a decade but hasn’t delivered, making Austin’s robotaxi launch closely watched as a potential milestone. Some analysts and investors attribute the majority of Tesla’s stock market value to hopes for robotaxis and humanoid robots it has yet to deliver.

We’ve had Waymo and Zoox operating in town for years. Waymo started road testing here almost 10 years ago now. Tesla is so far behind on this it’s not even funny. I expect their cars to be subject to vandalism, also.

Edit to add: All they’re saying they don’t want released are deployment patterns, like how many cars, where, and when. Whatever, that info is basically useless anyway. That they’re fighting so hard to conceal useless info demonstrates they already lack confidence in their service

Crack cocaine has always been a poor man’s drug. It’s highly adulterated and thus much cheaper

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