• Jerkface (any/all)@lemmy.ca
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    12 days ago

    Means that one partner can take the other partner at any time without warning.

    NO, it does NOT mean that. I mean, it can in a specific case where that’s what you negotiate, but that’s not what it means in general.

      • Jerkface (any/all)@lemmy.ca
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        12 days ago

        Not authoritative. And the definition given is dangerous and misleading. CNC absolutely does not mean “the ability to withdraw consent has been waived”!! You should have thought twice before you cited that.

        CNC includes a wide range of activities, and impressionable young people should check exactly what is meant in context. CNC is SIMULATED non-consent. If you are really in a situation where you have waived or expect your partner to waive the power to withdraw consent, you have left the realm of kink and BDSM and you are DEEP into abuse.

      • Neu@lemmynsfw.comM
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        12 days ago

        That definition seems confusing and wrong. Isn’t it just rape play?

        Because the wiki definition makes it sound like you revoke your ability to refuse, which makes no sense, like that can’t end in anything good, it’s basically invalidating safe words 😅

        • Phoenixz@lemmy.ca
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          12 days ago

          CNC is rape play, yes, and yes, there should always be safe words, just nothing like “no” because going against “no” is the entire point.

          This is not for everyone but at the same time, please don’t kink shame. Just bet you don’t like it doesn’t mean someone else gets off on it. Quite a few women are into this, apparently.

          There is also “no safe words” which is a whole nother level that I would not go into as that’s dangerous territory, both physically, ethically, and legally. Stay away.

          • Neu@lemmynsfw.comM
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            12 days ago

            I would be into trying it, but I think only if I knew that I could physically get out if I truly wanted to 😅

            Knowing that I am 100% in someone else’s hands is something that goes against my most basic instincts 😅

            • MyDarkestTimeline01@lemmynsfw.com
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              12 days ago

              I mean before even thinking of thinking about trying it you need to have a partner you can trust and as these situations are agreed upon before hand, there are usually agreed upon rules involved. Like “spank and slap me, don’t punch and choke me”. Beas with all things trust and communication before hand, and being a vigilant partner always.

              • Neu@lemmynsfw.comM
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                12 days ago

                I just don’t think that for me it’s possible to trust anyone in that way. Not as in I don’t trust them, but rather my instincts can’t be ignored 😅