For you personally to use that word to describe or allude to yourself and only yourself seems like something thats totally your call.
I do have to say though that encouraging someone else to use a word that is (or was once) a slur - especially if they are not gay themselves and therefore cannot possibly be reclaiming it - feels like a regressive and fairly crappy thing to do (assuming that they are straight).
It’s a great video but it overemphasis the ubiquitousness of interoperability quite a lot. But its still good to see a well designed campaign video on the subject.
Honestly, I am not trying to bait you or troll you or anything else when I say this but if you equate a simple request for context with toxicity you’re clearly not approaching this realistically or rationally.
You might well be right and you’ve been treated very poorly but literally no one on this thread apart from you can ever know that and no one is just going to take someone’s word for it.
But you expect everyone to immediately take you at your word without providing any context whatsoever.
Blast it.
“that option because just goes to desalines”
Who is the developer of the software. How they choose to develop Lemmy is up to them - you do have a choice though. Support them or don’t. What no one who donates has a choice over is how the developers choose to use the development funds they receive.
Not the point. The issue OP has is with the instance .ml - if they are donating to the developers then they’re contributing towards development costs which affect both .ml and every other instance. If that’s too much of a hurdle for them, maybe they could switch to donating to their instance admin.
If they had developed a centralised bit of software such as Twitter or Reddit you’d have a point. In that case you can’t support one without the other.
On a decentralised bit of software you can support the developers and spend your time on an instance they have no control over. So supporting the developers for development is not the same as supporting any particular instance - thats why a lot of instances accept donations too.
Gonna be that guy and mention an alternative - Schildi Chat available for web, desktop and Android. Its based on the Element apps but with some extras. For example if you use the ‘Next’ variant of the Android app, Spaces work as intended.
You’re a bigot who is on a platform that doesn’t tolerate bigotry. Off you fuck.
Imagine if instead of just reddit.com there was also reddit.org and reddit.co.uk and reddit.nl and reddit.social and (etc etc) all on a different server from each other and each with its own set of users and subreddits. But each user and each subreddit could be viewed and joined by any user from any server - that’s Lemmy.
So you’re on the piefed.social server (but on the fediverse servers are called ‘instances’) and I’m on the lemmy.blahaj.zone instance but we can both see, subscribe to and post to a community (the Lemmy name for subreddits) on an instance neither of us are members of - the asklemmy community on the lemmy.world instance.
Take a look at your screen (or app if you’re on mobile) and you’ll see ‘Local’, ‘Subscribed’ and ‘All’. If you select ‘Local’ you will see a list of posts from Communities that are on your home instance (which is piefed.social in your case). If you selected ‘Subscribed’ you’d see posts from all the Communities you chose to join/subscribe to across all instances. If you choose ‘All’ you’ll see posts from the entirety of Lemmy whether you subscribed to them or not. Whichever view you choose can be sorted by things like ‘new’, ‘active’, ‘hot’ etc.
To find Communities you’re interested in joining, use the Search function, type in a keyword and select ‘Communities’.
As well as those others have already mentioned, I use:
Linguist is a translation extension that respects your privacy. If you switch to the Bergamot translator it acts in offline mode.
Redirector which allows you to set custom rules so you can redirect (for example) Twitter to Nitter, Instagram to PikUki and also rules to redirect pages that are behind paywalls via 12ft.io (or 1ft.io as 12ft is currently down) .
TamperMonkey a userscript manager. I don’t have loads of userscripts but I do have things like SocialFixer for making FB a bit better, Absolute Enable Right Click and Bandcamp Volume Bar.
The only rules that matter are the ones you and your date agree on and largely revolve around where it is you decide to meet. There’s nothing wrong with either of you having a drink if you’re somewhere that serves alcohol. There’s a lot wrong if either of you go on a bender. There’s also nothing wrong with drinking a soft drink too. Or doing an activity based date rather than a food/drink oriented one.
Just communicate openly with each other before the date with an eye towards your dates feelings/perception of safety.